Do you have any kantoi incidents of your own? Care to share?
I’ll share one, but it’s not mine.
The guy, let’s call him Mr. Abu, and Miss Blogger were betrothed last July. Both of them are young, in their early 20′s, and after about a year and a half of dating they decided to get engaged, with the wedding planned this coming October.
Mr. Abu is an upcoming sportstar; his popularity surged overnight with the resurgence of interest in Malaysian football. Having rockstar good looks doesn’t hurt his case. His facebook fanpage has over 200k likes, most of them girls, of course. Miss Blogger is also in the spotlight when it was discovered that she was dating Mr. Abu – a fact that she openly shares in her blog which has more than 15k followers. In fact many of those started to follow her blog because of Mr. Abu.
Anyway recently allegations of Mr. Abu cheating surfaced. Mr. Abu then held a press conference to announce that his engagement to Miss Blogger was over and denied any wrongdoings – specifically that he cheated on Miss Blogger with another girl, quoting that this girl, let’s call her Miss Daisy, is just a longtime family friend and their friendship is sisterly-brotherly at best. Miss Blogger, in a separate newspaper interview, critisized how the whole matter was handled, claiming that she only knew about the broken engagement when she saw the news. She also reiterated that her relationship with Mr. Abu has been deteriorating due to the presence of a 3rd person. Prior to this, Miss Blogger had a minor facebook meltdown where she seared Mr. Abu for raising his voice to her mother.
This continued back and forth. He said, she said. Repeat.
The kicker is this: the photo above surfaced online a few days after Mr. Abu issued his denial, showing Mr. Abu holding hands with Miss Dasiy at a popular theme park down south. It is not clear whether this photo was taken before or after Mr. Abu’s engagement to Miss Blogger ended, but the insinuation is Mr. Abu has been cheating all along. You can find the full story elsewhere, just google it and you will find it.
In Bahasa Malaysia, colloquially we call this kind of incident ‘kantoi‘, roughly translated as being caught red-handed.
As for me, private matters such as these are something that I keep as My Secret. It’s not that I don’t talk about it at all, it’s just that I don’t talk about it in the court of public opinion. Not in this blog, or facebook, or twitter, or anywhere else that invites attention. It’s never fun to be on either side of a scandal, it’s less fun when you have 27 million people judging you, though the urge is strong to tell your side of the story and get some sympathy (call it what you want, underneath it all it’s still sympathy). You don’t want to do that. You just don’t.
p/s: I am merely recounting newspaper reports so I do not vouch for the accuracy of any of the above. Please do not hold me responsible for any untruths or embellishments. This is just me being busybody gossipy on a lazy Saturday night. Peace.